There’re two things that happened over the course of the last few weeks that made me think about the topic of spreading yourself too thin.
The first, was an offer that came my way to be a part of a new room that’s trying to get off the ground. I was approached to be a part of a team that’s trying to promote a room in South Florida for comedy. I think it’s a great idea and I love the room, but I paused to really take stock of all of the things I have going on. Between co-hosting the Wake Up Late with Dougie Show once a week, co-hosting my own weekly podcast, Coming Up Short along with Eric Rosenblum, and the fact that I want to perform as much as possible, I was very hesitant to give the thumbs up. In the end, after some serious contemplation, I passed.
The other item that made me think of this topic is a conversation I had just the other night with a fellow up-and-comer. He, like me, is single and we were discussing dating. He told me that he’s made the conscious effort to dedicate time and energy to dating and finding someone to be in a relationship with. I, on the other hand, have the exact opposite feeling. I’ve actually made the conscious decision to not date. I started to think about what I really want to do and what’s really important to me right now and getting into a relationship was very low on that list. To that end, if my goal is not to get into a relationship, then really what’s the point of dating? It’s a time-consuming and expensive process. Both of those resources, time and money, can be better spent elsewhere right now I think.
Having said that, I’m not opposed to dating someone and/or being in a relationship, I’m just not dedicating any effort to it right now. If the right girl magical appears at my doorstep, I’m not slamming the door in her face; though, I’m not holding my breath for that to happen anytime soon.
I’m reminded of something I read about Steve Jobs and his thoughts on progress and achievement. I don’t remember the exact quote, but the gist was that a lot of the time, to move forward, it’s more about what you say no to, than what you say yes to.